I listened to a podcast recently that one of the participants defined grace, as “not saying what you shouldn’t say”. She expressed that grace is to recognize when you are about to say something hurtful – and you don’t say it.
Oh my goodness! There are so many times I could have used grace in that way. Instead, I let my emotions take over and the words blurted out. As soon as the words came out – I regretted it, but it was too late.
I now try to make a conscious effort to pause before saying something that I know may be hurtful. I may think it – but I won’t say it. There are still times I fail. It takes practice.
I also think that grace is saying things you should say. In particular, to express the thoughts and feelings related to compassion and empathy.
I love you.
I understand what you are going through.
How can I help you?
I know you are doing the best that you can.
I am so grateful.
The more we exercise our grace by verbally expressing our personal compassion and empathy, the more intuitive we will be with our donors. Not everyone can easily express his or her thoughts and emotions. Sometimes they need help. But we can’t help others, until we master it ourselves.
Make a conscious effort every day to practice grace – both by not saying what is hurtful and, by verbally expressing your compassion and your empathy. You’ll find that it eases your mind and spirit and nurtures your intuition to recognize grace in others.
Let me know how it goes!